Specialising in Couples Counselling, Relationship Counselling, Bereavement Counselling, Psychosexual Therapy, Sex Addiction & Porn Addiction Therapy in Doncaster
Welcome to Doncaster Couples Counselling, Relationship Counselling, Bereavement Counselling and Psychosexual Therapy website. I am a Doncaster based Counsellor.
My name is Steve Keegan and I have been practicing as a Relationship Counsellor and Couples Counsellor since 2009 and as a Psychosexual Therapist since 2012. I have worked for Relate, the NHS and Doncaster Council and now work from my home based office here in Doncaster with couples and individuals. I am qualified to Post Graduate level with Hull University .
I am an experienced Doncaster based Couples Counsellor. I specialise in Relationship Therapy, Bereavement Counselling, Psychosexual Therapy and Sex & Porn Addiction Therapy in Doncaster and also see clients from many nearby towns. I regularly have clients contact me about Sex & Porn addiction and Couples Counselling and Bereavement Counselling from Barnsley, Mexborough and Wakefield as all are within easy travelling distance to my office.
I understand that it is a difficult decision to seek help from a Counsellor and that counselling may not be for everyone, but I believe that it is always worth giving yourself the best chance of resolving matters before they cause irreparable damage to your relationship. Sometimes we need a little help in resolving our problems from an unbiased outsider with the qualifications, knowledge, skills and experience to help us on our way.
CORONA VIRUS ( COVID-19 ) and the implications for face to face counselling. I have always believed that the most effective way to achieve and enhance a therapeutic relationship is via face to face counselling. However in the face of this unprecedented situation I realise that it it not a viable option for the time being to continue seeing my clients face to face with many people including myself having to self isolate. We are now obviously in a lockdown in the UK as we have seen elsewhere in the world and face to face counselling is no loner an option. That said, I can appreciate that many people will need to engage with a Counsellor. The stress of the situation and the likelihood that couples will have to spend much more time together than normal will I feel potentially see a rise in the number of inquiries that Relationship Counsellors receive. Please feel free to contact me and we can arrange to conduct future sessions online via ZOOM until it is safe to work face to face again. I appreciate that these unusual times may cause relationships that are already strained to potentially reach breaking point. I understand that finances may be stretched at present and can now offer Couples Counselling sessions at a reduced rate of £30 per session as opposed to my normal rate of £50. I will also be offering Individual counselling sessions at £20 per session instead of £40 until we all come out of the other side of this pandemic
Please feel free to contact me via email or ring me for a quick chat about your problems. I appreciate that it can be difficult to contact a Counsellor and that people are often nervous. I believe that a quick conversation can often help someone break the ice and feel less anxious about meeting the Counsellor for the first appointment.
DONCASTER BASED COUNSELLOR SPECIALISING IN COUPLES COUNSELLING, BEREAVEMENT COUNSELLING, RELATIONSHIP COUNSELLING & INDIVIDUAL COUNSELLING FOR RELATIONSHIP AND SEXUAL ISSUES:
I am now able to accept debit and credit cards as well as cash payments. All fees are payable at the beginning of the appointment please.
Couple relationships can be both the most important thing in our lives and at times the most challenging. Many of the couples who come for couples counselling have recognised that they may have not dedicated much time to each other and have been avoiding or ignoring the challenges and difficulties that daily life brings. All relationships can struggle and go through difficult times, but what makes the difference is how you manage those conflicts. In some cases the way you handle those challenges can make the difference between staying together or splitting up.
Couples counselling enables people to improve communication styles and make sense of how someone's upbringing and life experiences to date can have such a huge impact on who you are and how you conduct yourself within a couple relationship. Couples who are able to reflect, explore and openly discuss the difficult matters raised during the counselling sessions in their own time whilst at home will have every chance of benefiting from the counselling.
I have also worked with many couples experiencing sexual problems in that sex has somehow fallen off of the agenda due to other areas of live taking more of a priority such as work, children, hobbies and interests and simply there not being enough hours in the day. Once that happens it becomes very difficult to communicate sexually either verbally or physically and I work with many couples where men have lost their confidence sexually and feel anxious and awkward about initiating sex. This in turn impacts on the partner in that they too start to lose their confidence and their self esteem is affected which stops them initiating sex. This then becomes a vicious circle which starts to impact on the couple relationship where people often become more irritable and resentful towards one another. These sexual difficulties and miscommunications can easily be addressed within counselling sessions with a specific focus on sensuality and sexuality.
Couples counselling is not about a Counsellor giving a couple advice or taking sides and apportioning blame to one of the couple.
Counselling allows couples to explore relationship/communication difficulties in a contained, safe space. Couples counselling enables couples to think about matters from the other person’s perspective and reflect on matters explored in the room. It enables couples to understand each other and how their upbringing can affect their attitudes, beliefs, behaviours and communications. It enables people to start to understand one another and to communicate in a more worthwhile manner that allows them to listen, compromise and adjust some views, habits and communication styles. This is why it works so effectively as an early intervention and can help couples avoid the slow and steady build up of difficulties that can become toxic.
SELF ESTEEM AND CONFIDENCE WORK:
Many clients contact me due discuss their low self esteem and confidence. With the pressures that society and social media puts on people today, both men and women seem to want to look a certain way and compare themselves to the pictures that people post online or to other online content. A lot of the work that I focus on is helping people to look at the mirror within themselves and not the exterior mirror of vanity. A person is made up of many segments, not just a face and a body. Looks fade and bodies change shape through aging, weight gain, giving birth, disability and illness. It is all the other segments of who we are that keeps couples together and strengthens their bond over time. Take the time to ask your partner what it is they find attractive about you............................................
What else should we focus on when thinking about what gives us our self esteem? Our job/qualifications/humour/personality/friendship group/family/being a parent/loyalty/integrity...... The list goes on and on.........
It is not just our looks and body that give us value in the eyes of others, but a collection of many of our attributes
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DONCASTER BASED COUNSELLOR SPECIALISING IN SEX ADDICTION & PORN ADDICTION THERAPY / SMARTPHONE & INTERNET ADDICTIONS
I specialise in treating Internet/ Smart Phone addictions including porn, sex, sexting, chat rooms and dating sites, but also cover gambling and substance misuse addictions. I have ten years experience in treating addictions gained whilst working for the NHS Substance Misuse Team in Doncaster and as a Sex Therapist at Relate and more recently in my private work. It was whilst working for the Substance Misuse Team that I learnt and developed my practice working with patients to address their addictions to illicit drugs, prescribed drugs and to alcohol.
This decade of experience coupled with ongoing Professional Development and a Post Graduate Diploma from Hull University in Psychosexual Therapy gave me an in-depth understanding and knowledge of the route causes of addiction and the theories, tools, strategies and therapeutic skills to help people to overcome addictive behaviours. I now use my knowledge to assist many clients who present with sex addiction and porn addiction problems.
Porn addiction and sex addiction are often not related to sex at all, but the positive, pleasurable feelings that people have when they think about or act out the behaviour. There is a need to self sooth and regulate mood/emotion. This is achieved by many people with sex addiction amd porn addiction as they have developed this behaviour as a coping mechanism to manage painful thoughts and emotions and help them cope with their daily life.
There are many reasons why people choose sex addiction or porn addiction as a way of coping with life. The impact of trauma which can include serious illness, childhood sexual abuse and neglectful or abusive parenting can cause people to act out sexually. Another reason is people having the opportunity to put the time and effort into the behaviour. As technology has progressed with so many people now using smart phones, the opportunity is always there to access the internet and escape into the world of sexually addictive behaviours whether at home, work or out with the family. The problem of porn addiction and sex addiction is potentially with you 24/7. The problem should be addressed before it causes irreparable damage to relationships with families, children, partners and potentially impacts on your mental and physical health and possibly your career.
My experience and qualifications to date in Counselling/Psychosexual (Sex) Therapy and Addiction work have enabled me to address the issues of porn addiction and sex addiction very successfully to date with many clients.
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DONCASTER BASED COUNSELLOR SPECIALISING IN PSYCHOSEXUAL (SEX) THERAPY:
Psychosexual (Sex) Therapy which is very much a Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) based therapy and is an intensive program of work which incorporates CBT based work and couples counselling combined. Psychosexual therapy is for clients that are experiencing a sexual dysfunction that is caused by a psychological problem as opposed to an physical problem. Common conditions in men can include erectile dysfunction or retarded ejaculation. Common dysfunctions in women can include vaginismus or anorgasmia
Of course, on occasions a dysfunction can be caused by a medical condition and this would need to be discussed with your GP and any relevant tests undertaken before therapy could begin. There is also an element of intensive work to be completed at home by the client in-between sessions. This therapy should only be delivered by a fully trained therapist in this area. I have completed a Post Graduate Diploma in this area of therapy and have many years experience of practice working at Relate and in private practice.
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Please visit my other Website for detailed information regarding Bereavement and Pet Bereavement Counselling at : www.doncasterbereavementcounselling.co.uk OR CLICK ON THE BOTTOM LINK ON THE RIGHT HAND SIDE BAR
Below are most recently completed Continued Professional Development courses:
The annual sex addiction conference in London x 1 day. Meeting with other professionals and attending workshops and speeches by guest speakers. The course was organised by ATSAC.
Sex after Sexual Trauma ( COSRT )
Domestic Abuse and the LGBT Community ( Doncaster Council )
Domestic abuse and older people. ( Assessment and Intervention) A 4 day course in Newcastle to add to my qualifications to enable me to specialise more with elderly couples experiencing domestic abuse. The course was run by Safelives and accredited by the OCN.
An introduction to Complex Trauma and Trauma Informed Care ( Homeless Link )
I am committed to providing counselling and therapy in a safe, confidential and non-judgemental environment at my home office based in Cusworth, Doncaster. NB. There are no toilet facilities available
Appointments are available on an evening from 6:15 until 8:15 pm in my comfortable, private therapy room.
I am experienced in helping clients who have experienced difficulties with :
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I appreciate that it may be difficult to make sense of your difficulties and that you may have many questions about counselling or therapy and how it may benefit you. It is important that you feel at ease with your therapist and I would suggest that you email me or ideally give me a call to enable you to have a quick chat about your situation. You can then decide if you feel at ease with me and if you would like to book an initial consultation.
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I am an experienced Doncaster based Couples Counsellor. I specialise in Relationship Therapy, Psychosexual Therapy and Sex & Porn Addiction Therapy in Doncaster and also see clients from many nearby towns. I regularly have clients contact me about Sex & Porn addiction and Couples Counselling from Barnsley, Mexborough and Wakefield as all are within easy travelling distance to my office.
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